Comments on: Senate Signs Off On Alimony Overhaul

By: No Excuses

No Excuses — Thu, 10 Mar 2016 20:46:02 +0000

@ Chris in Molino:

Thanks for your response. I absolutely agree. Thank the Good Lord for my loving second husband who has been a great father to both his girls and my own. They are literally “Ours”.

By: chris in Molino

chris in Molino — Thu, 10 Mar 2016 02:24:47 +0000

@No Excuses
All I know is (being a once married man to a twice married woman) that when you love and accept a person, you love everything about them. Their children are part of them so you cannot love the person without loving the children. Therefore, the matter of responsibility and money becomes unimportant as you do it because their yours, you are a family. Thats all I mean.

By: No Excuses

No Excuses — Thu, 10 Mar 2016 00:33:56 +0000

Not disagreeing with your opinion, Chris in Molino, but the wording of your first post to this blog sounds exactly like you are saying once a woman (OR a MAN) remarries, then child support should change. My question was why? The new spouse (or step-parent, if you will) is not legally responsible for the new step-child. The other biological parent is, regardless of whether the ex-parent is a vengeful so and so or not. My ex-husband was extremely vengeful and attempted to get everything he could from me to ruin me and for no other reason. He was not successful, but, as you stated, it cost me a LOT of money. Just clarifying why I asked you the question – your wording sounds exactly like what I stated above.

By: me

me — Wed, 09 Mar 2016 15:22:02 +0000

@ shay, no, I don’t pay alimony….I can just spot a money trap from a mile away. I shouldn’t have to provide for another adult, EVER, after we are no longer together. Period. You’re an adult, get your own income. People who receive alimony are leaches, pure and simple.

By: chris in Molino

chris in Molino — Wed, 09 Mar 2016 13:49:46 +0000

@No Excuses
I’m speaking from EXACTLY the same position as your second husband. We do not want any support from the dead best dad, costs too much to get it. Too many fathers not being responsible not just monetarily but by not spending quality time or teaching life lessons. And too many women caring more about money and vengeance than the children.
To eveyone else : if this doesn’t apply to you, then no need to respond, right ?

By: No Excuses

No Excuses — Tue, 08 Mar 2016 21:45:35 +0000

@Chris in Molino:

I get what you are saying about the child support being modified if the custodial parent remarries. How are those children the legal responsibility of the step-parent? Morally, yes. Legally, no. The child support should be based on the income of the mother and the father of the children, and paid accordingly by the non-custodial parent. I’m speaking from the position of having a second husband who has been a wonderful father to my children, including helping to pay for food, clothing and educational opportunities, vehicles, college, etc. I could go on. The biological first father does NOTHING for these children, simply because they are now over 18 and did very little for them before they turned 18. So, how is it in any way, legally, the responsibility of a step parent to provide monetarily for step-children? What is mom (or dad) supposed to do if they depend on the child support to take care of the children? Child support includes helping to keep a roof over the heads of the kids, water, electricity and a liveable situation for the children.

By: No Excuses

No Excuses — Tue, 08 Mar 2016 21:38:37 +0000

Just a note here – it’s not only women who try to gouge their ex-spouses for alimony. I’ve seen men do it too, if they can qualify. I know this personally. My children do not speak with their father today, through no fault of mine. He is responsible for it through his own angry, vengeful behavior. The kids had eyes in their heads and knew who was responsible for it.

By: shay

shay — Tue, 08 Mar 2016 11:57:11 +0000

@chris You’re delusional!! Men shouldnt be reponsible for other men’s children just because they’re in a relationship with their mother.
I work two jobs to support my two children because the men I had children were decided to be dead beats. One even refuses to acknowledge the child he fathered. I don’t rely on men or agencies to support me and quite frankly I’m appalled by your comment. Not all women use their children as banks. If your comment had even a little hint of plausibility then I guess I could lump all men as cheaters,liars and deadbeats. Unbelievable!! I’m not sure if your theory is meant to hurt the women or the or the men in a relationship where there are children from another relationship. I’m sure men would be real eager to get in a lasting relationship with a woman raising children alone simply because he’d have to pay for another mans child so we’d have lots of single women or maybe in your scenario we’d have lots of women marrying men for their money.

@me just fyi it isn’t only women who receive alimony. You obviously are a man who pays it and thinks it’s unjust. Should’ve gotten a pre-nup.

By: chris in Molino

chris in Molino — Tue, 08 Mar 2016 01:26:19 +0000

Too bad the next stop cant be the child support lottery.
Yes, lots of men who aren’t responsible, and just as many women irresponsible.
As long as the woman remains in a home with the children, all for child support. But once she attains another future child supporter to reside in the home, support should be no more in monetary form but in the form of actual needed goods of the child.

By: me

me — Mon, 07 Mar 2016 16:10:13 +0000

Alimony shouldn’t exist in the first place. Nothing like women winning the divorce lottery and taking money they didn’t help earn in perpetuity.