Comments on: The Parts Of Dying No One Talks About – Esquire Magazine Features Northview Graduate

By: Mary Hickman

Mary Hickman — Tue, 22 Dec 2020 04:30:52 +0000

I’m just speechless. Knowing Dane the best, I could see him doing everything he did. He is one of the most selfless people I know. What happened was truly surreal. Words aren’t enough. Nicole was a kind soul and her beauty and kindness was obvious. God bless Nicole and your family. And thank God for friends like Dane.

By: Vicky & Michael

Vicky & Michael — Fri, 05 Jun 2015 19:38:22 +0000

Matt, I don’t know if you will remember me, us, but I still have the picture of Molly and Rayna from when they were friends and we got to know you (Nicole more, as you were traveling a lot), because of their friendship. I kept up with Nicole’s fb page for awhile of last year; we had so much going on; have moved back to the US since then, bought a house a few months ago and have just been trying to get back to being back to reality and lost track of everything. I guess a couple of months ago, I tried to open up her page and there was nothing and I got a gut feeling then, but I think I didn’t want to know. Anyway, I contacted Angelica and asked her to give me an update, and to my shock got the news. I know that we left Fairhope 6 years now, I guess. But, I’ve never forgotten about Nicole and you and the girls. Molly was Rayna’s 1st real friend. And, I remember that lil Eve, she was such a cherub. I remember you as such a calm, loving husband and likeable person, and Nicole was a beautiful special woman, one that you just don’t forget and it saddens me to the core that she left this world in such a way! too young, and Undeserving and astonishing. I just want to send me condolence’s and tell you that your article is a tremendous testament to your love for her and your family. But, anyone that knew you 2 together knew that. I ache for those girls, Nicole gave everything to them. But I know that your faith in Christ will help them in their heartbreak and healing, as well as yours. I just want to say that one of Michaels best friends wife from his high school has just been diagnosed with terminal cancer, she is in her early 40’s. They thought she was in remission I pray that she doesn’t have to experience the same pain and for him, the exhaustion that you experienced. If there are any words for him…what would you say to him? Maybe I can pass it on. I hope for a speedy recovery for your heart, and the girls. She will never be replaced, but I hope that there will be much sunshine in all your lives again…soon. Vicky

By: CRC

CRC — Tue, 19 May 2015 12:42:31 +0000

Matt,
I do not know you but I am a nurse. I admire really holding to your wedding vows. You did what any people could or would not, most would put their family in a nursing home. Like I said I’ve see the horrors of death first hand and I so admire you! You and your children have love and prayers! Wish there were more like you, the world would be a beautiful place!

By: 429SCJ

429SCJ — Tue, 19 May 2015 11:02:51 +0000

Death is always with us, a given in life as sure as the sunrise.

We can only love and care for those in our life, and be there for them in time of illness and health.

God has a plan for all souls, and we seek the gift of forgiveness and eternal life through his son Jesus Christ.

By: Dan

Dan — Tue, 19 May 2015 02:09:22 +0000

Friendship. Thank you Matthew for sharing and what a friend you have in Dane.

When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand.
Henri Nouwen

By: LS

LS — Mon, 18 May 2015 13:00:38 +0000

The article written by Matthew leaves most of us speechless. For those of us who walked along side Nicole in middle school and high school, we have a connection with her through her smile and laugh. We are better people for having known her and being able to sit in the room with her and laugh with her. Her smile forever resonates in our minds. She was a beautiful person inside and out. May her memory live on in the lives of those in which she came in contact. Her life story will be a source of encouragement for many years to come. She was found faithful and now walks hand-in-hand with our Jesus and watches over us from Heaven.

By: Gman

Gman — Mon, 18 May 2015 10:17:20 +0000

I have watched family die over the past few years and there is nothing uplifting about it. Yes there pain ends but it is a horrible thing to watch. Thank you Matthew for being strong enough to pen the article so others may have a better understanding of the truth.

By: molino jim

molino jim — Mon, 18 May 2015 01:37:07 +0000

I found this very touching. In the last year I’ve had two friends die from pancreatic cancer and a friend who is in last stages of lung cancer in both lungs. All three have said the same thing about people calling or coming by— why don’t they call or come by? The simple act of common friendship is so important to them at a time like this. It’s sad that people show up for the funeral, but never visit or call.

By: coseys ex

coseys ex — Sun, 17 May 2015 22:39:00 +0000

I’m wondering if the not feeling anything or not being sad about our loved ones death isn’t because we are bad people but perhaps because we know that they are in a better place and they don’t hurt anymore. It isn’t that we don’t love them. We are simply content knowing that they are no longer suffering.

My father died in 2010 and although I miss him dearly each and every day I am content with the fact that he isn’t hurting anymore and that someday I will see him again. Why would we be sad in those circumstances?

By: SH

SH — Sun, 17 May 2015 22:26:35 +0000

I knew Nicole as many in the community did, and it was heart-wrenching to read of her suffering and her family’s suffering in her final days. May she rest in peace.

Any time I see Belle from Beauty and the Beast I think of Nicole and her HS performance as Belle. Her performance as Belle embodied Nicole’s spirit, beautiful from the inside out. I will always remember her that way (and considering my family holds season Disney passes, I am reminded of her often).