Comments on: Woman Goes On Bowling Date, Leaves 9-Month Old Home Alone

By: David Huie Green

David Huie Green — Sun, 29 May 2011 14:37:50 +0000

REGARDING:
“as a young mother I spent many nights at home with my child while her father lived his life going out with friends and on dates”

Pick potential spouses carefully. They will raise your children–or they won’t. Your children will have some of their characteristics.

I once read women wanted to marry men smarter than they are but to date men dumber than they are. Only problem was that women tend to marry people they dated. Implied result is that each generation of women will marry dumber and dumber men.

Don’t expect them to change upon marriage. They are at their best when you first meet them.

Many have abandoned the concept of marriage since government will take care of them and their children if they don’t marry, so they don’t bother to marry anyone, just have children off of their dates. For result see above.

David in a declining world
that knows how to party

By: BC

BC — Sat, 28 May 2011 13:33:17 +0000

Would love to know where the father of the child was during all of this. What this woman did was inexcusable but as a young mother I spent many nights at home with my child while her father lived his life going out with friends and on dates. It is a shame that more young dads aren’t sharing the responsibilty of their children.

By: David Huie Green

David Huie Green — Sat, 28 May 2011 13:08:35 +0000

REGARDING:
“The woman is 20 years old and living on her own, how is this in any way the parents fault. Yes I’m sure that taught her right from wrong as she was growing up, however that cannot force their morals on her”

You’re right, of course. We are each responsible for what we do or don’t do. We don’t actually know what her parents tried to teach her or how they tried to teach it. We can reasonably suspect there may have been a breakdown somewhere, but they may have done everything flawlessly and she simply believed a few frames weren’t all that dangerous to leave the helpless child alone.

Nonetheless, the idea of placing at least some of the responsibility at the feet of the parents comes from the old saw, “As the twig is bent, so grows the tree.” We see some rebelling against what they saw and were taught while growing up but more often we see them saying, “It’s good enough for Mama and Daddy, so it’s good enough for me.”

It’d be easy to say, “She’s an adult; it’s all on her.” It’d also be easy to blame whoever grabbed the chance to impregnate her. (Note: If 19 out of 20 declined the opportunity to impregnate–unlikely, the lady would likely latch onto the twentieth if in the mood.)

It all works together: willing partners, alternative morals, biological drives, limited planning, opportunities, love for bowling.

Pray for the child and the child’s child. If nothing else, it’ll make you feel better. And every chance you get, see if you can bend the twig in a favorable direction. It all adds up.

David for changes in direction

By: dad

dad — Sat, 28 May 2011 01:04:54 +0000

I see there is another dad on here. Didn’t know we could use the same names. Makes it hard to keep up with who said what.
I’m not going to defend her like the other dad did. I think she was wrong. Period.

By: jcellop

jcellop — Thu, 26 May 2011 20:47:05 +0000

t2…you provide an excellent example in demonstrating how life-changing adversities can either crumble you or make you stronger….fortunately, you chose the later…i must say that your inner strength and core values are to be admired..hats off to you!

By: concerned

concerned — Thu, 26 May 2011 19:14:07 +0000

in response to joe…..i dont think that we need to say this girl has a mental problem. that is what is wrong. we have too many people claiming mental status for the reasons they do the things they do. She knew what she was doing…..she just though more of what she was wanting to do than her child. dont let her off that easy saying she has a mental disability.

By: family friend

family friend — Thu, 26 May 2011 15:11:58 +0000

wow!!! i have known this girl and her family for a long time…she was not brought up to act like this!! geese leah i hope you get yaself together soon!!!

By: t2

t2 — Thu, 26 May 2011 14:47:49 +0000

I personally have had a very bad childhood inwhich unmentionable things happened to me. That is no excuse. I was a step mom at age 19, had my first child at age 22. I have never put them after myself. I had enough sense to know that the moment I turned 18 I was an adult and what my real father and his family did to me didnt matter. I was to protect my children with everything I had. They are my gift from God, not just a pet. And they have never been a reason to not work and just get governement aid. And if you make the child, support the child, raise the child. And if you cannot, then give that child to someone who can.

By: Atmore G

Atmore G — Thu, 26 May 2011 13:51:37 +0000

@a concerned grandmother.. Your comment is on point.. We the taxpayers will shoulder the burden of this child’s care at least until it is an adult and probably longer.. You mentioned the word normal.. It is true that a lot of people now accept all these programs as normal and start having babies and apply for all the aid they can get.. In the checkout line at the grocery store, I almost always see someone paying with WIC vouchers or the red and blue card, and almost always, they have small children with them and another on the way.. They stand there talking (probably to their boyfriends) on their cell phones as the checkout is completed.. This mess cannot continue, because it won’t be long until the people that pay tax will be so far outnumbered by the people on welfare that we will no longer be able to pay for it..

By: bobo

bobo — Thu, 26 May 2011 10:16:14 +0000

another bowling career ending so suddenly..will it ever stop