IT is a known fact now that children to some extent are pre-wired,
so many of their traits will be different even in the same families raised
by the same parents and in the same environment.

However, that being said, there are many factors that go into why one
sibling is good and one sibling is bad. Just think about the fact how
boys are raised much differently than girls. Boys are traditionally allowed
to be out later and have less supervision. Just like they
are made to mow the lawn and take out the garbage, while girls are
made to wash clothes, scrub floors, wash dishes, clean the refrig.,
make beds, iron, put away groceries, cook, and a million other chores
that women do and nobody notices, unless they aren’t done.

There is also the factor between boys and girls that boys, especially in
this neck of the woods are taken out and taught at a very young age
to hunt, kill, skin and gut small animals, making the boys
much more hardened and callous than girls. Which may I remind you
is what they have found out about most of our serial killers. albeit I realize
they also went on to torcher said same, but if not for being trained to kill
small animals instead of love on them, I bet unless they had mental
problems they would not have gone on to torcher. Just my opinion.

Then you take into consideration the the fourth child syndrome,
which brings up the factor how many chilren were in the home,
and were their any favorites, (i.e. spoiled).

There are many differences in the home, under the same roof,
and while many go unnoticed, many are felt deeply by each
child.

While it may not quite be the fault of every parent, then again
in (I believe) most cases it is.

If you didn’t get through to your kids about drinking, driving,
drugs, kindness and respect for others and their property,
AND last but not least teach a good work ethic so they don’t
think the world owes them, then for the most part you
didn’t do your job.

You all seem to blame the drugs, or fast cars, or what have you,
for this lost generation.

Sorry time to stop and think about it.
Where were you when the first clue came in that they were headed
down the wrong road. There were clues.

Did you punt and shift, and say this one needs more than I’m giving
him. Like more of you time!

Did you always give them consequences when they did wrong
or did you say their just teen and teens make mistakes.

How many times have we heard someone say, “Why did his
own mother call the cops on him?”.

RULES, CONSEQUENCES AND LOVE AND MAKE THEM EARN
TRUST, AND EVERYTHING ELSE THEY WANT THAT COSTS
MONEY.

One of you said it yourself, most criminals
do come from bad homes.
Maybe your right, thats not all of them, but let me tell you something
That’s way way to many.

While I’m sure the

I agree with lyou whole heartedly……That discussed don’t know what they are talking about……I am not sure what planet they came from but here on earth but these choose what they do….Whether brought up by good parents or bad parents……IT IS TODAY GENERATION…..No matter how good a parent may raise their children….These kids now days want everything for free and do nothing to earn it……It is not always the parents fault.. for example….My mother raised me and my brother by herself…..She taught us good morals and right from wrong….I turned out good and have never been in trouble…On the other hand my brother being raised the same I was, robbed stores, did drugs, and was totally disrespectful…..NOW YOU TELL ME HOW THAT HAPPENED….HMMMM

“…And don’t any of you say kids do bad things and they come from good
homes.

Thats a lot of hog wash…”

I’ve seen a lot of people who came from good homes, worked hard, and lived
right, yet had siblings who came from the same home, the same background, and the same upbringing turn out to be scum. On the other hand, I’ve seen some who were “raised” (loosely termed) by uncaring guardians that turned out to be very upstanding citizens.

Bad upbringing can indeed be a factor, and usually is, but is not all inclusive. It is ultimately up to each individual to make their own decisions in life and how they wish to live. Not having the proper training and teachings, or the proper role models to follow, certainly puts one at a disadvantage but many overcome this.

By the same token, it is not very difficult at all to find siblings of some of the most heinous criminals in our history, who have lived very quiet, normal, hardworking lives. Background reveals a very normal family life. Parents who were strict diciplinarians and as good of role models as can be expected. Yet they had a child that, despite the proper upbringing, decided to become criminals and parasites to society. Yes, the majority of criminals come from an abusive childhood, poor upbringing, questionable parenting, parents who were alcoholic, drug addicts, criminals, etc. But not all.

It’s called “the victim mentality”. Today’s society is much too quick to play the blame game and blame their bad behavior on anyone but themselves. “I’m a criminal because my mother didn’t hug me enough” or “I’m in prison because my father left home when I was young” or “the world owes me because I grew up poor”. To say that every person who does bad things came from a bad home is simply unrealistic, and, in your words, ‘hog wash”.

Now these children are druggies and thieves and they are goiing right
where they belong.

I hope their parents are proud of themselves.

And don’t any of you say kids do bad things and they come from good
homes.

Thats a lot of hog wash.

You have to train them right, watch them close, and never stop.
They will be your babies till you die, but you can’t baby them forever.

You have to make them responsible citizens, and thats a heck
of a lot of work.

So kids reading this, if your not up to it…….. don’t do it.

Have a career, but don’t have children.

These kids when they were babies deserved someone who cared
and a better life then they obviously have had or will ever have now.